Posts by New Castles

my name is nigel.i am 50,married with five kids,early teens to late 20,s.i live in the bush in australia.i have cruised this site for a couple of months & feel comfortable enough to talk now.those of you who were long term jw,s will understand that.only my direct family know what i am about to tell.i have never told anyone else as they would not understand.i was born a jw in the u.k. and some of my first memories are of going door to door.i was scalded when i was 4 & i remember some brothers coming to see me.my parents emigrated when i was 13 as my dad didn,t get on with the inlaws.my dad drank a bit at home at home & was violent.it was never spoken about outside of the family and at 15 i left home.i was the eldest of four.i continued to go to meetings,lived on my own & learnt a trade.at 20 i married a good jw girl as was expected & became a regular pioneer.i was a good public speaker & as far as the congregation was concerned had a bright future.i believed in what i was doing as it was what i had been taught.when i was 22 we had a baby & was witnessing one sunday morning & was involved in a head on car accident in a 60mph zone.my wife & son were minor injured but i was lucky to survive.i had many bone fractures & head injuries & i did not know who i was,what had happened,nor recognize my wife or child for 3 months.i was in hospital for 6 months.i was unable to do anything for a year.by this time i was in financial difficulty & due to this & my mental state grabbed what i could get in court,which was not much.during this time no one helped...no one.i continued to go to the meetings but my heart was gone & the downhill slide had started.over the next 7 to 8 years i worked a normal job but started to drink & by mid 80s was not attending meetings.my wife was a good jw & did not understand my feelings.although i had much respect for her & still do,by this stage we had 3 kids,& there was a chasm between us.i knew that i was affecting my wife but she would never divorce me.so i figured the best way was to give them all the reason not to want me around.i was called to the meeting & i told the elders how i felt & that even i did not know why.disfellowshiped.fair enough.we divorced late 80s.she married an elder.i married a so say worldly person.about 3 or 4 years later my new wife & i had 2 kids & were getting along fine.i had started talking to dad but i did not want to go back to meetings.my dad was disfellowshiped for smoking & could not give it up.he became ill & very depressed.he overdosed on anti depressants.my mum knew what he had done & left him on the floor for 24 hours before calling an ambo.she rang me when he was dead.i don,t talk to her any more.she remains a jw.no comment.my sisters are jw,s.

nobody talks anymore but.three weeks after dad died my brother had a lot of problems,financial,legal & grief.he was only 29.he shot himself.i buried two in three weeks.and so began a new chapter in my life...violence.and baby wasn,t i good at it.i king hit everyone within arms length for a year.didn,t lose a fight,the anger was immense.did the maximum weekend detention,lost my job,my second wife took the kids & went.

understandable.i held a gun in my mouth so hard i bled for two days.but i couldn,t do it.i love my present wife & kids & i believed that jehovah would understand & forgive me when i die.i did my best with what i was given.from that day i never looked back.i fixed it up with my wife & we get on great.my three oldest kids to my 1st wife are jw,s but i see a bit of them.my wife now hasn,t much time for religion.understandable.she is a nurse.i don,t work any more.i still look outside & appreciate what god has done for us but i don,t need other people to feel that.too much damage done.i don,t slag the witnesses nor the wts.their business what they do.i just don,t agree with the procedure of df,s and the climate of fear & guilt.i have seen much & will contribute where i can.you seem like a decent bunch.good luck to you all.nigel

New Castles

Welcome, extraordinary story....

Hope you make good friends here

5

thanks

by sometimeleft in

jw
friends

i"m taking this time to thank all for welcoming me to the board.

this is more welcome than i got at the kh on most occasion lol .

i have lots to tell but don't know where to start -and don't tell me : " from the beginning " lol.

New Castles

Its a shocking experience...its great that your family has left with you. My decision to fade has been met with extreme discontent from my family, but I hope for the best in the end. Question, do you know what book it was the qoute was taken from?? Just some info for those of us interested in researching that a little

Thanks, and hope to hear from you and your family...

NC

21

newbi

by sometimeleft in

jw
friends

.

hi - i"m new to this though i've been reading it for some time.i"m 57 my wife have been with the wtbts for too long 18 ys (aproximatelly ) have two sons - one was baptized one was not but all are out of it for a couple of yrs now - glad we're out .

anyways - just wanted to say hi - this site has been good for us especially me - talk to yu guys later

New Castles

Welcome,

Glad your out!

22

Caffeine induced headaches

by Stefanie in

jw
friends

.

i am trying to quit diet sodas, but if i try to go more than 12 hours i get a severe headache that not even asprin will relieve.. .

i dont know how on earth i am going to quit my bad habit!

New Castles

I have two cups of coffee in the morning, if I dont I cant stand the headache all day....

10

Help with english to spanish translation

by Elsewhere in

jw
friends

i have tried some online tools to translate something, but they don't seem to be translating correctly.

i need to know what the correct spanish translation is for: "do not remove string" .

this is referring to some pull-strings i am going to run around in the attic of my new house (so i can pull wires at a later date) and i don't want the workers to mistakenly remove them.

New Castles

You can also use

No quite el cordon

41

How Many Hours Do You Work?

by Englishman in

jw
friends

just curious.. todays "times" says that americans do most things one hour before the brits do.. americans, it says, start work at 8am, brits rarely before 9 am.

american lunch is at 12 noon, the uk is 1pm.

american dinner is at 6pm, uk eats around 7.. but how many hours do you need to actually work?.

New Castles

What do you work in Xena??

12

Why the children???

by New Castles in

jw
friends

why is it that the wts seems to pick on children from such an early age?

i was reading some personal stories in the best of forum, and so many have gone through rough times as a child in the jw.

i personally remember times where i was ashamed, embarrassed, and upset about being a jw as a child.

New Castles

Isn't this horrible...I dont mean to beat this to death...but someone needs to take notice of this action against JW children. Teachers should be able to do something about it....

Im just venting

41

How Many Hours Do You Work?

by Englishman in

jw
friends

just curious.. todays "times" says that americans do most things one hour before the brits do.. americans, it says, start work at 8am, brits rarely before 9 am.

american lunch is at 12 noon, the uk is 1pm.

american dinner is at 6pm, uk eats around 7.. but how many hours do you need to actually work?.

New Castles

6 weeks holiday??? I get 3 weeks and thats it...

I work 8-5 five days a week, 40 hours....some saturday mornings